When the stream flows slowly, Breeze blows lovingly, the sky is blue, the birds sing silently beside the golden road, eating lush green grasses. Then they step out in gale, hands in hands, in intoxicating love, walking together in majesty, talking, laughing and gesticulating. It is obvious Jade and Tade are deeply in love. Jade is the envy of all other Girls around her, you can’t blame her she has found the love of her life.
Most people in Marriage started as friends, became lovers and decided to get married, believing they can’t live without each other. A whole lot do end up becoming rivals, competitors, combatant and even sworn enemies in marriage. This is not the plan of God for your marriage
You can be in your marriage and enjoy it forever; you can be lovers forever in your marriage, it can be “living happily ever after” all you need are skills to be great friends, wisdom to be good partners and skill to be lover boys and girls no matter the age of your marriage.
Marriage is not meant to be a Boxing ring or battle field, it is supposed to be a love garden, a place of merry and a banqueting house. Here, I will give you keys to become lovers forever in your marriage and never rivals.
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(1) ACCEPTANCE
In the lives of two love birds, acceptance is a key factor. You can’t love someone you resent or do not accept. To live together forever as lovers, you must accept your spouse’s stature, height, complexion, facial look and everything about him. Begin to see your spouse as someone having the best height, set of teeth, complexion, tummy, qualification, hair, best face and be proud of his or her profession
(Song of Solomon 4: 10).
Anybody that is taller than your husband is too tall, anybody shorter than your wife is too short. Your wife is having the complexion, stature, height and everything. Your husband is simply the best; grass that is thought to be greener in other compound is only in the imagination realm, accept your spouse to enjoy your family life forever.
(2) FORGIVENESS
Marriage cannot last if forgiveness is not part of it. In marriage, you will offend your spouse, but what will help you to stay married is your ability to forgive. Make up your mind to forgive; being generous with forgiveness will make your marriage to last. A great marriage is said to be a relationship between two forgivers (Colossians 3: 13).
(3) DEVELOP TEAM MINDEDNESS
Successful couples are not extraordinary people; they are ordinary people with team spirit. It follows logically that a marriage cannot work when a couple relates with solo mindedness and independent spirit, standing apart without cleaving or becoming one flesh.
One mind, team spirit enhances the health of a marriage. So drop solo thoughts, eating, dressing,
Purchasing and sleeping alone. That is a self- cantered existence. Be a team player. Talk, walk, play, dress, sleep, build and invest as a team. Team spirit will insure your marriage against satanic, in-laws and third party encroachment, the truth is you can’t succeed alone connect your spouse (Ecclesiastes 4:9-12).
(4) EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION
Couples communicate; great lovers communicate effectively. Effective communication is the fuel that keeps lovers and their marriage going. Effective communication involves better understanding, adequate choice of words, right timing, sincerity, truthfulness, openness and continuity.
Let there be no dark room in your union; communicate effectively.
Communicating effectively simply means, you talk deeply, kindly, openly, lovingly, truthfully and constantly. It involves TALKING TO each other and not TALKING AT each other
(5) DO AWAY WITH NEGATIVE EMOTIONS
Though, you plan to live together as soul mates you may end up living together like cat and rat if you don’t deal with negative emotions. Divest yourself of negative emotions like excessive demonstration of anger, retaliation, vengeance, malicious statements and attitudes, negative thoughts and interpretations, evil conception, bitterness, resentment, hatred, thought of retaliation, suspicion, wrong imagination, emotional affairs. These negative emotions can destroy any marriage if left unchecked. Seek for help; go for counseling on how to deal with these negative ‘pregnancies’ they will soon give birth to negative actions and terrible reactions that will hurt you, your marriage and future so deeply
(6) TOGETHERNESS
Togetherness is what marriage is all about, it simply means doing things together to enhance intimacy, oneness and build solid marriage without giving room to intruders
No matter how close they may be. You can’t arrive at this point accidentally; you have to work it out by lots of coordinated activities like eating together, sleeping on the same bed in the same room, putting on the same clothes, praying together, going to church together, playing, strolling and doing activities that build and strengthen intimacies in your marriage. They make you become inseparable and make you lovers either your marriage is 7 months or 70 years old
(7) PRAYER IS THE KEY
Couples that stays together are the couples that have been praying together; couples that pray together will easily surmount their problems and stay together. Prayer plays a strategic role in the making of a successful home. Many forces may militate against your marriage; you will need prayers to stop them. Create time to pray together for your love life, attitude, emotions, unity, pregnancy and delivery; your job, ministry, children and many more.
(8) PLAYFULNESS
The home is not a silent grave yard where no noise is allowed. Put on your childhood instincts; Be Childlike, play with your spouse and children and make merry. Don’t let your home wear a gloomy look like a grave yard. Playing together will keep you closely knitted, please pray, be Childlike play. Don’t be a celebrity parent or husband/wife just be a lover at home, play with your spouse. Men, play with your baby girl I mean your wife, be romantic, don’t just be sexual (Song of Solomon 7: 11).
(9) SEXUAL FULFILLMENT
In a successful marriage, sexual fulfillment is not negotiable. Give quality sex a chance in your marriage; avoid sexual denial and don’t use sex as a weapon or trade by barter. To get to the level of sexual fulfillment, there must be sexual communication. Ask your spouse: how can I satisfy you sexually and be prepared to improve? Make up your mind to satisfy the sexual desire of your spouse.
Sex in Marriage is Biblical (1 Corinthians 7: 5) it is lawful, it is enjoyable, it is the will of God. Do it often, joyfully, playfully and do it romantically.
Create time for it, wives put it in your “to do” list, surprise each other with tantalizing sex, WIVES MUST BE TERRIFIC IN THE BEDROOM, it’s a gift from God to the married. Let it bind you together; don’t allow it to separate you.
Make it interesting, don’t allow BOREDOM in your BEDROOM, Make sex happen in your marriage, make love, don’t just have sex, do it, in styles, you are in order, it will make you lovers forever in your marriage. DO IT, yes DO IT.
Pastor Bisi Adewale is a family and relationship expert; author of Secret of Irresistible Wife and more than 70 other books on marriage and family life. You can reach him on familybooster@gmail.com,
08068312004, 08051512823,
BB: 2AF5C883.
www.familybooster.com
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